Guys are you attracted to girls who are loners?

Question:Guys are you attracted to girls who are loners?
I am loner and no it doesn't bother me. I am pretty self-confident. I am also very independent. I get a lot of attention from guys because of my body. Well the thing is that I am afraid that a guy will stop liking me if they find out that I am a loner. For some reason most guys then to associate that with clingy. I am the total opposite. In fact I am giving titles such as nonchalant or arrogant because I am very reserved too. So yea.. I'm just wondering what you guys think?

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I am loner and no it doesn't bother me. I am pretty self-confident. I am also very independent. I get a lot of attention from guys because of my body. Well the thing is that I am afraid that a guy will stop liking me if they find out that I am a loner. For some reason most guys then to associate that with clingy. I am the total opposite. In fact I am giving titles such as nonchalant or arrogant because I am very reserved too. So yea.. I'm just wondering what you guys think?

Well, guys fall into basically 2 camps. Husbands & Players.

We're either looking for 'that special girl' or trying to nail anything attractive. And quite frankly, sometimes it's both.

Loners fall into 2 camps. The ones that nobody likes & the ones that like nobody. And quite frankly, sometimes it's both.

Now Players will nail anything attractive. They are fine with the 'likes nobody' loner, because they are looking for sex, not to be 'liked'.

In some sense this is a Players perfect girl. All fun & games - no commitment or complications. Of course if you are a 'likes nobody' loner it implies you are NOT up for fun & games.

But, if you are a 'nobody likes' loner - odds are you are also a 'desperate for attention' clinger. Now Players like the 'desperate for attention' because it makes the seduction easier. BUT the clinger part gives them pause.

Husbands (as in potential) do not like the 'likes nobody' loners, because they want to be with someone who likes them.
AND won't be drawn to the 'nobody likes' loner because nobody likes them.

The short answer to the question is NO. Guys do NOT want to be with girls who want to be alone.

But the fact you would even ask this question implies you don't really want to be alone. So stop thinking of yourself as a loner. You are just a bit reserved. Plenty of guys are fine with that. But we aren't psychic. Somewhere down the line you should let us know if you like our company. ;-)

Good Luck Kid.

1) No
2) This should be in Singles and Dating

Problem is, if you're a loner, how are people going to contact you?

I'm a loner too, but primarily cause I tend to talk over people's heads.

I'll put it blundly, guys are attracted to anything that has a pulse, is warm, and is soft. And the part about the pulse and warm is negotiable.

Open your mouth, speak your words, and very quickly you'll find out who you're meant to be with. The personality of a woman is a wonderful challenge to many men.

Not in particular... Where I am attracted, I am this in spite of the aloneness not because of it.

You say you are very independent but in turn, that too would lend you to dependency; otherwise your independence has no substance; nothing is otherwise genuine. Problem is, that you are very independent and do not embrace your very dependent characteristic lets on there exists somewhat deeper within at odds. And if you are "clingy," that only translates to mean somewhat turn on dependency, which is indication that there does exist within you that fire but you deny it by means of some falser fiat that need not be given voice. It is the true aspect within that imports and dependency can be no more thought a weak thing than independency may be owned as somewhat mighty. To deny this proclivity that otherwise evidences in the balanced woman lets on you have no will to release but instead clap yourself away in some oubliette into which none, not even yourself, may access, when at a moment's notice might be better given expression. Might you think the heartbeat can persist, somewhat which we cannot take for granted will not, if it cannot release its histolic to become diastolic, which failing lends to infirmity if not death? Why all this false posturing? You are not "total opposite," what woman or man is? --only partially so...whether you wish it or no. And another sharpest of person need only levy the right condition and exact its matching intent to behold in you that innate default -- just chide the converse and see what happens. Ay, for even the mighty elephant cowers before the mouse. Ice melts.

I, for one,am. And being a loner myself, I respect that loneliness, being careful that my acquaintance with the girl in no way infringes on her loneliness; that is, from the start,the intention is a tour of the periphery,not an invasion of the centre.