What makes it so difficult for people to be comfortable swimming in the deep wat

Question:I almost drown as a teen in long Island sound when the boat I was in sunk....I was near drowned when someone came down for me.
Even years of swimming....I couldn't bring myself to swim~ over my head. Then I bought a bayliner with a deck on the back. I would put on a life jacket and jump in and swim. until I started to feel comfortable with my swimming. I then would jump in with out one, heck if a small boat would stay with me, I bet I could swim across the lake.
So basically the fear is not that the water is deep, but your own abilities, you need to practice to give yourself asurance~

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I almost drown as a teen in long Island sound when the boat I was in sunk....I was near drowned when someone came down for me.
Even years of swimming....I couldn't bring myself to swim~ over my head. Then I bought a bayliner with a deck on the back. I would put on a life jacket and jump in and swim. until I started to feel comfortable with my swimming. I then would jump in with out one, heck if a small boat would stay with me, I bet I could swim across the lake.
So basically the fear is not that the water is deep, but your own abilities, you need to practice to give yourself asurance~

wow, could u be more vague?

The fear of drowning in themselves .

Lack of experience.
Normally, the young are fearless.
However, experience could either
1. Freak you out and you never venture out of the shallow pools of your mind. This shallow waters is where most people stay for the rest of their natural lives. The ones who venture with their toes into the "dark waters where angels fear to tread" are called Philosophers (tongue in cheek)
2. pretend its not there at all. *whistle whistle. da da dee, there are no deep waters * Lol.

People are selfish with their minds.
They use the least amount of brainpower necessary to come to conclusions for fear of learning who they really are and what they are really about.

Its not the deep waters thats uncomfortable.It is the possibility that while swimming these deep waters one may venture to far from shore, thus making it difficult to return to the safety of the bank.

what makes you think they have deep waters??

what they might find

Some people are not prepared to take the plunge, as The Rikstir said and I agree, "For fear of drowning in themselves."

'Tis true. Most people don't go beyond the surface, because it's much safer...

A very precise question, thanks. As most identify who they are by their thoughts, like Descarte's idea, to dive into the non cognitive, non linear aspects of our minds lets us experience fear of losing the security of who we think we are. But what fun is there is diving if we need to keep our feet on shore.

It is far too murky to be comfortable in my mind right now. The best (non work related) analogy I can think of, is as a SCUBA diver, I once swam in a river full of tannic acid (tea). You could not see your hand in front of your face. That can be very scary.

That's what my mind is like.

(of course, 2 up from me, there is always the 'brat' factor to consider)

Shallowness, it's a high dive in the kiddy pool. Only pain results. It's like surfing white water at best.

afraid we lose touch with someone else or grow aloof ,lol

they're afraid of their own monsters/demons.

Thinking too much always bring the truth to the surface and no one likes to (hear) realize it.

i'm afraid i wont be able to make it back to the shallow waters again. lost in the depth of my own mind for an eternity.

It is difficult until you learn how to do it. It takes lots of time and practice. But it is the only path to finding yourself.

Instead of swimming in the deep waters of my own mind, I would prefer excavatomg the deep s.h.i.t of other people's minds.

Never forget that no man is twice as true as his brother's keeper!

Harleigh Kyson Jr.

I think most are just afraid, afraid of the unknown, afraid of what they might find, afraid of seeing who they really are. We like our illusions of self. Thanks.

Fear of mediocrity? Fear of not making any sense to others. An appreciation for keeping things simple.

They have to face truths that outwardly they deny. Deep down they know the truth whether or not they agree with it - on the outside they can pretend, on the inside they can't.

To quote Benn and yourself.
Sigh.

There are dark things in those waters and confrontations worse than meeting Rosie O'Donnel in a dark alley...

My mind is a kiddy pool.

In my case, it's occasionally because the water's just too cold.

...it would mean having to face your demons, or tapping into emotions that are not easily controlled by letting down your guard and becoming vulnerable...not an easy task, especially if one is not comfortable with in-depth feelings