Do YOU: Hold a grudge or forgive & forget?

Question:...personally I hold a grudge and wait for my moment of opportunity to deliver a payback!

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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: ...personally I hold a grudge and wait for my moment of opportunity to deliver a payback!

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Forgiving sometimes. Forgetting, never. You learn from your experiences, even the bad.
Then I take back the power others are trying to take from me and go on with my life in the best way I can.
I am responsible for my own actions and emotions. I choose to react or not react. I choose to be the master of my own life. Revenge has no part in my life. Negative reactions only means giving away your personal power.

I forgive but I don.t forget

depends on who the person is but most of the tym its PAYBACK!

i think that life is to short to hold grudes so i mostly forgive and forget.

I do hold grudge because I may forgive but I don't forget.

If you like to live in a world where people do this kind of things? Do you expect other people to do the same to you?
Even if you dont understand what you did to them?

I had this discussion with my parent before they left the room permanently. I did have the opportunity to speak of this subject and for me having the chance to meet and talk was in itself a forgiving act of kindness.

I do a mixture of both.. outwardly I forgive and forget, in order to avoid further conflict. Realistically, I hold a grudge that festers but neven explodes. Haha... ... "A dream deferred..." but not. ??!?!!

It entirely depends on the situation. If it is trivial from a loved one, i usually forget pretty fast. If its a big enough deal that I don't care about them anymore, then I just don't go around them anymore.
If its someone who lives to piss people off for fun just keeps on refreshing my anger before I can get over it, I manipulate the karma around them until they are gone from me or in a situation they have to live with for a long time to come, like getting my supervisor fired for being an *ssh*le to me and others. But I find revenge to be fairly easy to me, which scares me to the point of only using my power for the good of those involved in the injustice. The hard road is turn and offer the other cheek, and I don't like to be slapped at all.

its better to forget then forgive as it brings you the EGO in form of superiority ( you start think superior of yourself) on other if you forgive
their is no scope for grudge

KARMA!!
And once my trust is gone then usually it is gone. So I may forgive but I dont forget!!

Both, but I'm not willing to pay back. I'll just simmer in my disappointment until it's steamed away. Or just plain look at the offense and leave it alone, forgive, but I won't forget.
Forgiving is divine but there are the rare times when forgetting is absolutely stupid!
More often than not to forgive and forget is the order of the day. It is the correct thing to do, retribution will only bring retribution. Otherwise if we all took an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, then we'd all be gumming our meals blindly.
Someone has got to lay down the sword and walk away no matter how small the offense. No matter how great the sin.
Still, I hold a few small grudges, I remember who not to deal with in business. But like I said, the grudges will go away as fast as I let them, and forgiving is what is expected if you ever want forgiveness then you have to be able to do so yourself.

Small grudges are a waste of effort.
Large ones ....... can be satisfying.