Is it true you can't make anyone happy unless your happy with yourself?

Question:i disagree, you can certainly make people happy, (sense of humor, give good advice, listen, be a support, compassion, help them to see the good in themselves when they feel helpless. ) you can do all those things and still not be happy with yourself. i do agree though that in a committed relationship, you must love who you are as well as the better half in order for the partnership to succeed. ruthie

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: i disagree, you can certainly make people happy, (sense of humor, give good advice, listen, be a support, compassion, help them to see the good in themselves when they feel helpless. ) you can do all those things and still not be happy with yourself. i do agree though that in a committed relationship, you must love who you are as well as the better half in order for the partnership to succeed. ruthie

sounds true to me.

well yea, if your not happy yourself, you wont have the strength to make the people around you happy. Smiles are contagious, if not wearing one neither will your friend or family

How very true, also how can you love someone if you don't love yourself first...

You can't make anyone else happy. That's their job. You're job is to do the kind of meaningful things that make you happy. Their happiness isn't dependent upon your's nor is your's dependent upon their's. You can participate and share in each other's happiness which is all you can do.

it is very true. everything we seek, is everything we must give to receive.

yes
you cant give hypocritical advice

It depends on what the meaning of being "happy". If "happy" means one's greed gets satisfied, then sure, you can be very silently very unhappy giving a lot of money to someone. The receiver is sure happy since his thirst for money is quenched.

However, if you are referring the quality of pure, good type of being happy, then yes, you have to be happy with yourself first before you can make anyone else happy.

Take for example, you can give your little child a lot of wonderful things, but if you're unhappy, he will sense it and the pure happy feeling does not arise in him.

No one can "make" anyone happy....what you can do is be a positive influence to help them decide to be happy....happiness is a choice based on many factors....if the environment is positive, then it is easier to choose to be happy, but it is also possible for the environment to be positive and for a person to have inner turmoil....in that case help may be needed to address the inner turmoil either through counseling or medication or other alternatives...until a person feels whole it is harder to feel positive or to decide to be happy

It's still up to them to be happy, but it can be contagious if they want to catch it.

Being happy with in your self seem to influence people around you

That depends on the relationship that you have with the people whose happiness you want to ensure.

You can't make your loved ones happy unless you are happy yourself. Even if you do everything you can to make them happy, your own unhappiness will make them miserable, because they love and care about you. Also, it's harder to show your love when you are very unhappy.

But you can make strangers happy even when you are miserable. All you have to do is make anonymous contributions to their welfare. Mail them money. Send their children toys during the holidays, with toys still tight in their packaging so the parents know that the toys haven't been tampered with. Give money to agencies or church charities that help these strangers.

As for the people who hate your guts, you can make them happy by being miserable.

So it all depends,

Rainchild

no its not you can easily find enemies who will take joy in your misery.

No. Sometimes the only way to like and respect yourself is for the positive things you contribute to the world. You can sit in your room doing affirmations all day but if they aren't true they will have very little power. Looking inward can draw you too far in and leave you self-centered and neurotic. Allowing your focus to go to the needs of others can benefit both.
Being happy doesn't come from self-indulgence. It is like too much cake. The first bite is wonderful. The first piece is good but the whole cake leaves you ill and very unhappy.
Find something bigger than yourself, give more than you thought you could and find a new place of happiness.

no that is not true

No. You can certainly make someone else happy event though you're not happy. It means helping them achieve what you haven't.

Self-love allows us to feel the power to help others. Without self-love, we are too insecure to help ourselves much less others.