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Question: I want to find my birth father!?
I know where my father lives and everything i know his name and his last name but im scared to meet him and he has about 10 other kids!. I dont know wat to do and i dont want to talk to my mom about this!. When i was born my last name was Johnston but she had i changed to Patterson her last name and Johnston isnt even his last name !.what should i do!?!?!?!?!?Www@QuestionHome@Com


Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
Meet your father!.
Otherwise you will live with 'what if' or regrets for the rest of your life!.
You don't have to tell your mother but it's likely she will support you, even if it takes her a while to come around!.
If you meet your father and he turns out to be really mean or whatever then at least you know you're better off without him and the part of your life when you longed to know him will have closure!.
If you don't like him you can always leave him behind and never make contact again ALTHOUGH it's likely he'll accept you, as you are his blood!.
Good Luck!Www@QuestionHome@Com

You definitely need to call him or send him a letter and ask to meet him for coffee or something!. You might find out that he's a great guy and that you have a lot in common!. If you don't meet him you'll always regret it!. What if he were to drop dead tomorrow or next week - get in a car accident or something!. Then you'd never get the chance to meet him!. So, Just Do It!

And if he turns out to be a total jerk then you can still say to yourself that you at least met him!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Please don't wait! Meet him while you can because one day it will be too late!. After you meet him you can decide whether or not to continue the relationship!.Www@QuestionHome@Com