She was born in Columbus, OH, knows that her mother was 16, and her birth name, but not her mothers name!. I would love to find out about genetics and maybe even find some living family!!
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Position:Home>Genealogy> My mom was adopted. I would love to find out who her birth mother is. Where do IQuestion: My mom was adopted!. I would love to find out who her birth mother is!. Where do I start!? !? She was born in Columbus, OH, knows that her mother was 16, and her birth name, but not her mothers name!. I would love to find out about genetics and maybe even find some living family!!
THANKS!Www@QuestionHome@Com Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: Her situation is much like mine accept I was the teenage mother!. I left updated information at the adoption agency throughout the years!. I'm sure you have been there!? The agency was a great asset to my daughter when she was trying to locate me!. There are also many websites mothers and the adopted children can post on for free!. I posted on several over the years in hopes that my daughter would see I was interested in a reunion!. P!.S!. When we met for the first time, we hugged, cried, then went in and sat down by the fire (of her adoped parents house) And I got to watch videos of her growing up!. Then we baked cookies!. =)) As far as not liking what you find, there is always that chance!.!.!. but not always the case!. Meeting my daughter after 25 years was the most incredible experience for us both!. She has found a "new" loving family, and I have the comfort of knowing for sure I made the right choice!. Please feel free to e-mail me with any questions I may be able to answer!. Best of luck!!Www@QuestionHome@Com Honey!.!.!. I have to ask!.!.!. Why would you want to put everyone through the hell of needing to confront the past!. Your Grandmother gave up your mother for a reason!.!.!. She has had to live with that decision every day of her life and I'm sure she still cries for the child she gave up every day!. Searching for your biological grandmother is a VERY selfish act that may make you feel good for a while but will only cause pain to the people you are looking for!. If they want to find YOU then that is THEIR CHOICE but hunting these people down and forcing them to acknowledge you usually doesn't end well!. I'm sure you have this picture in your head about a loving reunion where everyone cries and hugs and you all go walking off in to the house to sit by the fire and share your lives!.!.!. But what if your Grandmother gave up your mother because she just didn't want her!? What if the loss of her daughter has caused her to be a bitter woman!? What if all of those years of bitter contemplation cause her to reject you when you do find her!? What if she has already passed away!. YOU REALLY NEED TO THINK ABOUT THE NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS ALONG WITH THE POSITIVE DREAMS YOU HOLD!. If you hunt her down, I hope things turn out ok but don't automatically assume that it will be all hugs and baking cookies with Grandma like on TV!. Reality can be a b*tch and remember!.!.!. Your biological grandma might be one too!. Is there any way you can be happy with the family you have and just move on!?Www@QuestionHome@Com I wish you all the success in your search!. The "want to know" is strong and should be followed no matter the outcome!. I would join one or more of the adoptee search sites online and register your mother!. It could be her mother is looking for her too, or another family member!. My cousin found that her daugher had registered on one of these site!. The other is to find the adoption agency and see if they have the form that the mother had to fill out when she gave the baby up!. It would have general information, like where the father came from, if she had any siblings, etc!. And last but not least, you or her could do the MTDNA test and see who you match with!. If you found a match, it would still take work as that person might match your mother's mother's mother or something but it is a good startWww@QuestionHome@Com dont listen to these people if she is looking for them then keep looking i think its nice i would do the same if my mother was adopted what you should do is call the orphanage or hospital where she was left and since the mother was 16 she probably couldnt take care of her and just wanted a better life for the baby so anyway go to the hospital and ask for their birth records for the month day and year your mom was born then ask a private detective or google that persons name now googleing might tak a realy long time but they have everything on google good luckWww@QuestionHome@Com My story is so similar to yours , its ironic !. I am 28 , so I couldn't possibly be her , try Ancestory!.com!. And if you have a chance http://answers!.yahoo!.com/question/index;!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com http://www!.findingdulcinea!.com/news/Amer!.!.!. This site just did a story on Adoptees finding parents online, it has a lot of good sources in it!. Good luck! Www@QuestionHome@Com why if your mom hasnt gone looking in all these years why are you you dont always find what you are hoping for bewareWww@QuestionHome@Com |