Death in the family?

Question:My 100 year old aunt died today of pneumonia. She was my "second mom". Does anyone have any advice for me?

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: My 100 year old aunt died today of pneumonia. She was my "second mom". Does anyone have any advice for me?

My mother died when I was 16, so i have an idea of how youre feeling right now. Ive also had pneumonia and know how much pain it can bring in addition to being unable to breath very well.
When my mother died, I became very depressed and the only thing that seemed to help me was music. It sounds kind of stupid, but just lying down by myself or driving around with music that suited whatever mood i was in that day (usually sad or angry rock ill admit) helped me a great deal.
I think it has something to do with being able to scream along with music that expressed how i felt at the time. I also read a lot. This also was a way to escape for awhile. Im not sure if our situations are similar in any way other than the death of a mother figure, but i do know what helped me cope, maybe it can help you too.
I also now know that when they say that time heals all wounds, what they really mean is that given enough time and reflecting on memories, you eventually realize that things worked out for the best and that even if this is one of the worst things thats ever happened, that your aunt had a hand in making you who you are today... and thats the coolest memory of all. Knowing that everyday you live, the way you live is a reflection of your aunt and all the good things she wanted for you in life.
Maybe i sound too whimsical, or like im writing just to have something to say, but its what got and continues to get me by. Hope i could help even in a small way.

If nothing else, hang in there.. it sucks and hurts pretty bad but youll come out a better person for having the experience.

I am so sorry to hear about that! I really do not know what to tell you. I know losing a loved one is hard, especially when you are close to them. The best thing to do is to try to remember the things that you loved about her. When my one of my dearest and oldest friends passed away several years back, I made a a memorial web site for him. It helped me to think of things we did and putting it on the web helped others who knew him to relive some of the stuff we did and it made them think of things they did. It truly helped the grieving process for me and several others who knew him.

My sympathies to you and your family!

advice? not really. I do have a hug for you (presumptious as that might be). Anyone who makes it to 100 shows something of strength, I think.. I would be so grateful for having her this long. My mom died early, but I presently have the most wonderful mother in law walking the planet. Whatever we do everyday in our lives, it is wonderful if that brings love or kindness to someone else, family or stranger. Your comment says she succeeded, if she was that special to you. With sympathy, I hope that peace is with you in the days to come.

If there is anything permanent in this world, that is Death. Everyone must die one day. From ordinary to sacred people, no one alive now. Human body cannot live for a long time. It's a machine made of flesh, bones etc. The machines can work only for certain years so also physique. Don't worry. If she had been good to you then say thanks to God and the spirits watching you. Also pay thanks to the spirits of your old aunt.