Why dose she think its just a phase?

Question: Why dose she think its just a phase!?

for 6 months ive wanted to do ballet yet my mum still thinks its just a phase and wont let me take classes!
i know if i keep bugging her she will let me go but why dose she think its a phase i stick to everything i do!
please tell me why she think this! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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there might be a problem with money and she is waiting a while to see if it really means something to you to do it!.talk to her and say if theres a problem with money or anything elsa then she can talk to you about it and that you could maybe get a wee job to help!.Or she might just seriously think it is a phase, but if you do stick to things usually then its probably something else!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

When you say that you stick to everything you do, how much do you do!? If it's a lot, or you have stopped doing some things or no longer enjoy them, she may believe ballet is going to be a phase to!.
Maybe if you enquire about ballet classes in your area, and then speak to your mum about it, she may be more understanding!. You could just go to a lesson to see if you like it, If you do, talk to your mum about attending them regularly, if not, then no wories!Www@QuestionHome@Com

Some parents are just unreasonable!. But some kids are just flighty!. If you want to try to convince her, make a proper case for it: work out why you want to do it, how dedicated you can be (i!.e!., will you go once a week!? Twice a week!? Really!? For the next year!? Even when you're tired from school and have exams to do as well, and all!?) Why are you that motivated!? What's pushing you!? Then explain all that to your mom, maybe also explaining how it feels, and why it's different from the last thing you wanted to do!. It might help as well, to remind your mom that people regret the things they HAVEN'T done in life, not the things they have done!.

That's the mature approach!. Which also requires a mature parent!. If you or your parent can't do the mature approach, but you're still serious about doing the ballet, then get the money together (from a job, if necessary!) and go anyway!. It might involve forging a signature on the consent form, but honestly, I wouldn't let your mom hold you back, if you really believe it's right for you, and you REALLY believe you can't reason with her, despite trying your best to do the right thing!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

If it's a pay as you go class I don't see why she shouldn't take you!. You're not putting money on the line if its a pay as you go class so you can drop out whenever you like!. I can see if it's a 'fees have to be in by!.!.!.!.' dance school as if you decided you absolutely hated it after a couple of weeks then you'd have spent money for no reason!.

Ignore the people that are saying it's strange for rockers/emos/chavs etc!. to do ballet!. There's a rocker that goes to my ballet lessons!.

I honestly can't say why I think she would think it's a phase if its true that you stick to everything you do!. At the moment I'd suggest working on your flexibility and show her your progress regularly!. It might make her realise that you do want to stick at it!.

All the best :)Www@QuestionHome@Com

well it probably is just a phase!. just like everything in your life: potty training, barbies, kindergarten, tellytubbies--- it is pretty much all just a bunch of different stages!. like i wanted to do tai kwon do and then i did gymnastics and then i did swimming!.!. they were phases!. so just tell your mom: this IS NOT a phase and I AM SERIOUS about it!. tell her that if you end up quitting because you lose interest, that you will not be allowed to go out for any other type of sport or club for a year!. just try to find some way to bribe her or negotiate with her!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

hey!!!
well i suppose its mostly associated with younger children so maybe that could be the reason that she thinks it's just a phase and she might thing you'll soon give it up if you start!. i've been doing ballet for 11 years (i'm nearly 15) and i find it really enjoyable!. it's really difficult and takes up a time and energy!.but if you really are passionate about doing it then just keep on pleading and pleading until she just gives in hehe maybe even show her what i wrote if you want anyway i really hope this has helped and that you are allowed 2 start really soon lol xoxWww@QuestionHome@Com

Maybe there are some family problems with money and she can't afford it!?!?
Or maybe she thinks you need to focus on your education more!?
If not, then she probably isn't taking you seriously enough!.Just try talking to her seriously and say Mum, i want to do ballet! Why won't you let me!?
Then keep at her until she tells you why you can't!.
Good Luck!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

She will have her reasons either she doesn't think it appropriate or she doesn't have the money to admit it!. The best thing you can do is ask her as maybe she has her own personal reasons like maybe when she was young she wanted to take up something and got humiliated and now doesn't want you going through the same thing!. xxxxxWww@QuestionHome@Com

I don't know!. Have you ever asked for something and then given up on it once you had it!? If yes, then that could explain it!. Or maybe 'cause you're a teenager!? Either way, if you really wanna take the lessons, explain that you really want to do this! Who knows maybe you're even good at it! If not, then you'll just fun dancing it!. Plus, even if it turns out to be "just a phase", what's the harm of trying it!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

She isn't taking you serious!. You have to explain to her the reasons you want to take ballet!. Not in a screaming way and not when she's busy!. Sit down with her and go over what studio you want to take it at, where you will get ballet shoes and why you want to take it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Most people do go through phases like that!. She probably doesn't want you to join and then be disappointed when you don't like it!. Just keep persisting, but don't bug her b/c then she might just get irritated! Just keep showing her how serious you are about taking lessons!!Www@QuestionHome@Com

idk y, maybe b/c lots of girls quit dance after a little bit, but if u are positive u wont quit tell her!. or maybe its becuase she doesnt want u to do dance because she wants u to get a job not in dance ware u will make more money!. Just make sure u do what u want to do!Www@QuestionHome@Com

Have you made a habit of starting something and not finishing!? If not then, I don't really know!. If she is not wanting to pay for the classes, why don't you do something to earn the money yourself!.!.!. like work around the house, or something!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

if u really can't think of anything then find out where you can get lessons and when and show your mum what jobs around the house u plan to do to earn them!.
i can't tell you what your mums thinking but that's the best way to get themWww@QuestionHome@Com

i wanted to do irish dancing!.!.my mom would not let me do it!.!.i begged her everyday and she never let me!.!.it sucks!.!.a couple of months later i didnt want anything to do with irish dancing so just try waiting it out!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

She only thinks it's a "phase" because she doesn't want you to join, waste money on a few months of dancing, then quit before the recital!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

this would depend on your age!. if you're in your early teens, then she probably suspects that you will just grow out of it!. most parents do this, because it happens alot in young adults!. hope this helpedWww@QuestionHome@Com

What kind of things are you interested now!? If your in a rock band or something like that then taking ballet would be strange!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I'm not sure!. If you're old enough, maybe pay for them yourself, or tell your mom you'll do extra chores if she lets you do it :)Www@QuestionHome@Com

She doesnt want to pay for your classesWww@QuestionHome@Com

because she doesn't want to pay for it, plus she might think your too old ( even though your not!)!. Maybe you could try and pay for it (or atleast part of it!.)Www@QuestionHome@Com

Maybe she doesn't have the money right now to pay!. Economies all over the world are not good!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Because you will need to get a proper job!Www@QuestionHome@Com