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Question: Would I be wrong if I want to put my boy child in ballet classes at 5!?
Boy or girl I want my children to be trained in dance around 4 or 5 years old unless they tell me they don't want to but would I be wrong for putting my boy child in ballet and modern classes would people think im trying to make him gay because im not I want my children to become talented unless they tell me mommy I don't want to do this but don't all the male ballet dancers start off young also because I've taken dance and you must have like atleast 11 years of ballet so I know all those male ballet dancers started young also and no not all male ballet dancers are gay but what do you think is it wrong!?Www@QuestionHome@Com


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no way! your little boy could grow up to be an outrageously great dancer! being gay has nothing to do with it!. besides, most athletes take ballet to work on their flexibility, so it's not that gay at all!. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, so give your son a chance to reach his full potentialWww@QuestionHome@Com

I think dance is a great exercise and is very good for coordination and muscle building!. Lots of pro football and basketball players have taken ballet at some time!. I think it would instill a sense of physical fitness and a love of music in him!.

That being said, if you are worried that people will think you are trying to "turn him gay" which is kind of silly if you ask me, enroll him in martial arts instead - it will also instill that physical fitness and coordination and give him a great self esteem!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

You should do it!. Just because he is a boy, if you want him to get good then start him at five because that's when good female dancers start too!. Just because they dance and are surrounded by females does not mean he will turn gay!. He might become more feminine like but not gay!. I know little kid male dancers at my studio and they are not gay!. And even if they were gay would you expect a five year old to voice that opinion!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think that sounds like a really great idea!. Ballet is really great for posture, which needs a lot of self-control, which I guess means that ballet also improves self-control!. Ballet also is a great sport!. It keeps me fit!. I guess it all comes down to what you want for your child's future, and what he wants for his future!. Some people may say that they are too young to know what they want, but if you are prepared with all the expenses, go for it!.
Have fun and good luck!Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think that ballet would be excellent at his age, especially because he's not old enough for the other kids to fully understand and pick on him!. If i were you, i would ask him myselfif he truly wants to do it!. If he doesn't want to do it, ask him if he would rather take a similar class such as jazz!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

What does your child want to do!?
There is nothing wrong with boys taking dance, but if they would rather be playing T-ball, they will not be very good dance students!.

And taking dance classes will not make anyone gay!.

It should be what the child wants, not the mother, in this case!.
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Well!.!.!. I think if you do, you should balance that out with also having him do masculine stuff as well!. As in, football, basketball, boy activities, things like that!.
I think if you just do that on the side with having him do normal boy stuff more, that would help!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

As long as he wants to there is nothing wrong with it!.

If he doesn't want to do it you shouldn't force him!. Stuff like that should be fun!. He might find something similar that he likes if he doesn't like ballet!. Gymnastics, for instance!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

absolutely not! Especially since he is still young and other children don't really have much to make-fun of at 5!.
If he is willing to go-it's an awsome idea!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

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no i think its ok but ask him first before you sign him upWww@QuestionHome@Com

you can drive him to ballet class by day and have your husband take him to strip bars at night!.!.!.

In all seriousness, though, I don't think that there is any evidence that shows that ballet makes guys gay!.

I think the bigger problem is that you seem to want to make him do ballet for 11 years!. It's one thing making him a well rounded person, but even if he is okay with doing ballet now (and I highly doubt a 5 y old has the stones to stand up to his parents even if he didn't) he may not want to continue it all the way into high school!.
My suggestion would be to have him do it for a few years and then give him the opportunity to stop!. Since it is likely that he will feel insecure about the dancing (grammar schoolers have little discretion about throwing "gay" around as an insult based on attributes unrelated to sexual preference) he probably will quit!.
Let the matter rest until he is 16, then ask him again!. By now, he may actually want to continue for one of the following reasons:
-he sees a future in dance
-he realizes that rather than making him gay, having a skill that allows him to hang out with a bunch of girls in tights gives him an advantage in the competitive world of high school dating!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

no, it's not wrong at all!.

but, just so you know, a lot of male dancers start a lot later!. it is more crucial for female dancers to start early, but they could also start later and be fine!. it would be harder, yes, but they could still go very far with dancing even if they started later!.
there have been boys who started at 17 or even later that became principal ballet dancers!. so they don't have to start at age five!.
i'm not saying its wrong to put them in dance class at that age; by all means go for it!. it will help them a lot physically and mentally!. but they dont HAVE to start at such a young age!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Dance lessons do not make a child gay!. It is a lot more complicated than that!. However, you shouldn't put him/her in them unless they say no, but rather you should ask them if they want lessons in dance or if they'd rather do something else!.
Some kids, myself included, just don't want to do dance!. I'm a girl and I was much more interested in Tae Kwon Do and baseball than I was in frilly dresses and ballet!. Don't assume that your kids will want the same things you want because that will only lead to resentment and it'll be a waste of your money!.Www@QuestionHome@Com