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Question: Nervous While Dancing With Boys! Help!!?
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Our school has a show choir, which is a bunch of students singing and dancing!. Most often, there are atleast three partner dances! I've told the director many times that I'm very shy and particular about who I dance with, and I can only dance with really close guy friends!. He refuses to hear any of it and has told me that he will pair based on ability and skill, not on prefrence!. I'm bothered by this, so I need some advice!.
If I happen to get paired with someone I am not close too, how can I help myself feel more comfortable and relaxed around them!?
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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
First, your director is absolutely correct!. This is a performance, not a social event, and the personal inclinations of the performers can't and shouldn't be considered!.
I always concertrated on presenting the best performance I could give!. The dances have particular steps to follow, and your director will probably choreograph them closely; so you'll know, for example, to prepare to be spun into a one-armed dip two bars into the bridge of a certain song!. It most likely won't be like a social dance where your partner is leading you in a series of movements he's choosing from moment to moment!. You'll already know where to go and when!.
I have had to perform roles opposite actresses I absolutely couldn't stand before, sometimes even playing lovers!. I found the best I could do in those circumstances was to do everything I could in my performance to make my audience believe I was completely head-over-heels for her!. It was a way of saying "I'm too professional to even let on that I loathe you"!. Your feelings toward your partner might not be so extreme, but the same idea applies!. Wear your brightest smile and don't shy away from him like you fear or dislike him!.
Now, if you do this right, he may mistake your good performance for a developing interest in him personally!. If you encounter this, talk to him about how you actually feel!. Be polite, but don't make excuses!. No, you don't want to hang out after practice, you don't have anything against him, you just aren't interested!. Don't hint and it shouldn't be a problem!.!.!. and I doubt you'll even encounter this issue anyway!.
Another way you can learn to relax with a partner you don't feel close to is to take some time to build a friendship or at least a good aquaintance with him!. It's easier to be comfortable dancing with a stranger if you make an effort to turn the stranger into a friend!.
Again, don't confuse social activities with entertainment!. This is about entertaining the audience!.!.!. your next school dance you can dance with your choice!.
Good luck to you, and kudos for looking to a solution to the problem!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Focus more on the dance & less on who you're dancing with!. And try to remember that as long as you're being assigned to each other, there aren't any real expectations!. It's not like a school dance where there's more pressure to be comfortable & hit it off with each other, & it's not like a guy you're partnered with will automatically want to date you, ya know!? It's a performance, nothing more!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Sounds like you have a wise Director!. First rule on being nervous, just remember your partner is just as nervous as you - so make it work for you; share your feelings with him, hey it's a start!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Get to know the guy!.
And, if you want to perform, you will have to get used to doing things with people you don't like!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Questions like this should be dating or relationships!.
Dance is like the art form dance!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
tyhe same thing happened at school last year!. my class was putting on a musical where we had to !.!.er!.!.do quite intamite dances in pairs!. were talking fips and me going through my partners legs and him (trying) lol to lift me up and spin me and all thses carzy things!.
i was paired up with this guy i never said one word to since kindergarden!. he was kinda!.!.below me on the social scale!.
the fist class was the most alkward!.!.actaully, like the first 3 classes!. lol!. it was alkward for both of us, seeing as though we were used to our space!.!.it just seemed "wrong"!. after a while of alkward dancing and not knowing where to look, we got through it!. Dont worry, even if you get paired up with someone you dont want to you will learn how to get along-its natural human instinct!. and once you get the routine down your and his mind will be so focused on what step comes next it becomes more of an induvidual-thing
anyways, expect it to be alkward but I GUARENTEE you it wont be after a while!.Www@QuestionHome@Com