How to tell my dance partner that I don't wanna dance with him anymore?

Question:the problem is this:
before taking up tango everybody told me that it's a kinda dance you should do with your lover ... but I always thought I could have put up with this person even if I completely dislike him.... unfort I can't... we're having lesson in which you're taught how to 'stay close' to your partner (probably too close).... OHH GOD!! it's so embarrasing for me...
I'd like to keep it up with somebody else....but how can I tell him this?? he's so proud of his job.... but I'm not at all!!
please help me...need to know what to do before friday!!!!
tks love you all !!

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: the problem is this:
before taking up tango everybody told me that it's a kinda dance you should do with your lover ... but I always thought I could have put up with this person even if I completely dislike him.... unfort I can't... we're having lesson in which you're taught how to 'stay close' to your partner (probably too close).... OHH GOD!! it's so embarrasing for me...
I'd like to keep it up with somebody else....but how can I tell him this?? he's so proud of his job.... but I'm not at all!!
please help me...need to know what to do before friday!!!!
tks love you all !!

So are you giving up Tango temporarily (before you find a more pleasant partner)? Say "I've decided to take a break from dancing. Thanks for dancing. Sorry, you'll have to find another partner." Are you switching to another partner? (That's a tough one) Say "Thank you for dancing. I feel I'd be getting a lot more progress with this other guy. It seems like we're a better match." Are you just breaking away from him and dancing on your own? Ouch... "So... I don't want to continue this partnership. It's not working out for me."

BTW tell him that when he gets angry you wish to know what angers him expressed politely in words. Tell him you are unable to act on his emotions unless they are expressed verbally. Therefore plain demonstration of anger will have no effect. If he can't contol it - you find it too unpleasant to deal with and therefore won't be able to continue the partnership.

Is there a way to fix this situation? You say he gets angry. But he's not the only one entitled to have feelings or opinion. Express your thoughts to him. Maybe he's doing the "stay close to your partner" thing incorrectly? Maybe both of you are doing it incorrectly? It's a common mistake. When done properly it should *look* like you're very close but you certainly shouldn't feel his private parts neither he should feel yours. Ask your teacher to help you on this. (You can say that you feel crowded by your partner if you don't know how to say it.) If the teacher says to shove your boobs into his chest then maybe look for another teacher.

One can put a lot of different meanings into dancing Tango. You can dance it the way you say - they way you'd only dance it with your lover. But I'm surprised they teach you this in class! Usually, it is taught in a more impersonal way. Tango is danced socially and competitively, and there is no way you should feel that way about every partner you dance with.

One important element of any partnership is your ability to communicate with each other. If you're expressing yourself in what you believe is polite are respectful way and your partner is listening and attempting to understand you - you guys can get it fixed and happily dance with each other. In any case, remember, it's not only his feelings you're trying to spare but also your own reputation in the studio. You don't want to be known as a dump-your-partner annoying little girl.

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Just tell him the truth be honest

Just tell him you have a foot injury and won't be able to dance for a while. Maybe he will take the hint. You could then dance somewhere else. I fully agree with you about the Tango - it is too intimate to dance with someone you don't like.

Actually, the tango is rarely danced with one's lover. Tango enthuasiasts find they cannot be critical of their lover's steps and prefer to dance with someone to whom they can express themselves openly.

In Buenos Aires, most people who go out to dance, go alone, or, rather, don't go with a dance partner. The men invite women to dance with their eyes, an expression, a twitch of the head. If the woman nods acceptance they meet directly on the dance floor.

Perhaps you can tell him this.

Straight up. Tell him it's a little uncomfortable.
Or make up an excuse about not having time to take up dancing anymore.

Generally honesty is the best policy. You can't do this forever feeling as uncomfortable as you do.

LOL..heheeehee. Sorry.
Get a copy of that song that goes,
" i don't wanna dance, dance with you baby nooo more" and upload to ipod/play down the phone/sing it!!
Someone tell me who it's by or that'll bug me all day now!

just be like.......... "so..... i don't want to dance with you anymore."

Tell him, he probably won't want to be your friend but is that a problem for you?
Also, if you can't separate dancing from intimacy, perhaps you should only dance with your lover.

Scenario, Hi hun you dancin? You asking? Yes, **** off twat!!!!!

Eddy grant, I don't wanna dance.

be honest, not mean though.. tell him that you think it is better for your relationship if you dance with you "lover"

Take you time and beak it to him eas!!
I bet this is a touchy nerve for you both!
do the right thing !!
Think very hard of what your about to do!

Just tell him how you feel but be honest and remember his feelings are at risk for being hurt, so break it to him easy.