Help me :( i'm a 20 yr old girl who can't dance.?

Question:guys please help, i'm too shy to dance. i hardly have any rythm.

even when i drink i'm too shy. i'm missing out on a lot of fun when i go out with my friends. i bought a video to learn and it was so lame!!

i want to learn to salsa dance and just to hold my own on the dance floor. i also don't know what to do when the song changes.. what do i do with my feet or hips.. or hands??

please don't say, 'just move with the music' i need specifics..
i am seriously clueless and shy.. any advice?

please & thx

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: guys please help, i'm too shy to dance. i hardly have any rythm.

even when i drink i'm too shy. i'm missing out on a lot of fun when i go out with my friends. i bought a video to learn and it was so lame!!

i want to learn to salsa dance and just to hold my own on the dance floor. i also don't know what to do when the song changes.. what do i do with my feet or hips.. or hands??

please don't say, 'just move with the music' i need specifics..
i am seriously clueless and shy.. any advice?

please & thx

when u dance.. u should neva eva be shy.. at home, stand in front of d mirror and loose urself by movin ur head and shoulders , thats an exercice, and then turn your stereo and start movin ur head on d beat back and forth, right to left, this will help you 2 get in d mood, and once u loosen up like this, you can see your body movin, your feet movin, your hands too! its not necessary 2 think where ur hands should go! when u dance wid a guy, u can jus hold him from d neck! simple and move ur hips left to right! very simple... closin ur eyes help you 2 get more into it.. dont u ever think what to do with ur legs and hips and hands! when u think while dancing, ur body wont do what ur mind want to! when the song changes, listen to the beat and keep it up with it! and while clubbing, if some1 ask you 2 dance, go for it and never be shy, do the 1st step, get up! if they know you cant dance, they will lead you and u will see how easy it will be.
And now what do i mean by dancing with the music! hmmm the music has a beat that is repeated every 2 seconds, it can be more than 2 or 3, one slow and the other fast and louder, all u have to do is to choose which beat to follow, and move your ur hips every time you hear the beat, 1 to the left, 1 to the right... and continue this way! your body will continue the work!
But before all! dance in front of the mirror and make yourself like what u see in d mirror! if u say "im suck im hatin this"! u wont have fun! just like what you doin! this will give u confidence! you can make urself funny when u dance! there is no such wrong move in dance! dont ever think to do the chicken dance lol! and if u feel someone hated ur dance or smtg! start laughin at urself so u wont feel embarrassed!
u kno i had been once performing on stage in jordan when suddenly i found out ma top has removed and i was dancing wid ma bra! hahaha i just laughed about it and took the top back as ntg happened!
Go get some salsa classes too it will be useful, very sexy dance!
Have Fun :)

just move with the music

buy Dance Dance Revolution and get good at that. By then u should be able to learn other dancing moves.

Honey, I am right there with you so don't think you are alone! And I'm 44!!! I, too, wish i could let loose and do what these people are doing out there dancing. Besides, alot of them look like they have no clue what they're doing but they don't care because they are having F-U-N! And you think everybody will be watching you!
I hope someone has an answer for you. I'll keep checking back too! I just wanted you to know you aren't the only one that feels this way!
Good Luck!! :)