Is it odd for a married woman to take ballroom lesson without her husband?

Question:I'm 28 years old and I started taking lessons because it was something I always wanted to do. My husband doesn't take them with me for various reasons, mainly because it is just too expensive for both of us to do, and we have a child with no babysitter. Since it was my interest, it made more sense for me to just take them. I love them so far as I figured I would, but some times I feel like there is a pause when I tell people that I do them alone. I am one of the youngest students at my studio, as mostly every one else is in their 40s, 50s and 60s. Isn't it pretty common to see married people take lessons by themselves?

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I'm 28 years old and I started taking lessons because it was something I always wanted to do. My husband doesn't take them with me for various reasons, mainly because it is just too expensive for both of us to do, and we have a child with no babysitter. Since it was my interest, it made more sense for me to just take them. I love them so far as I figured I would, but some times I feel like there is a pause when I tell people that I do them alone. I am one of the youngest students at my studio, as mostly every one else is in their 40s, 50s and 60s. Isn't it pretty common to see married people take lessons by themselves?

You're right. People who don't do it may think it's odd, but anybody who's spent any time in a ballroom studio will note the number of married ladies there. Most of their husbands either won't take lessons at all or take them only as long as they have to in order to bow out gracefully, which suits the rest of us guys fine!
Think, too, of all the women who are left home while hubby's out playing ball or hunting. Nobody thinks twice about those.

No it's not odd. You stated the reasons why you were doing it without him. Maybe after you are on your way to being skilled at it you can watch the kid while your husband goes. Then in the future you can dance together when you have someone to watch the child. It also sounds like you are making the most of the financial situation you are in.

honestly, dancing is dancing. if u like dancing than u should dance; it's an expression of your soul and body language. if you like to go to ballroom classes with or without your husband than that is great and you should continue. Don't let anyody hold you back from what you want, and if people give you looks than they have a problem because you are doing nothing wrong it's not as if you are cheating you are just having a good time

Ok you really sound like my Aunt.........Heres why she herself is 28 she is married and has a daughter and then there is 16 year old me, well My aunt and I both started ballroom lessons and at first it was really weird because we had to dance with people who were like late 20 to early 40 and about 3 weeks into our lesons we were driving home and she says" do you think people will think its weird for me to dance with other guys because i'm married?"

when she asked me I was like Oh my gosh your kidding right?
when she did not laugh and say yes I realized she was not kidding So I asked her this......
You dont plan to date any of these guys right?
and she was like no I don't
so then I told her to forget it then and don't worry so much!

So this what you need to know,
chances are people will understand when you say that your taking ballroom lessons they are going to think one of two things .....

1) You are doing this to get in shape
2) it's just something you want to do

and if this dose not help you well, then try to get one of your friends to go with you because after all it is a really good workout! also what style are you learning?

I am one of the old guys you see dancing.

I can't speak for married women, but as a married man whose wife doesn't want to learn ballroom dancing, I go alone and I leave alone. I am getting some much needed physical exercise, balance exercise, mental exercise and I get to listen to music I like. I don't feel bad about it and I don't feel guilty. My wife was invited and continues to be invited, its her choice. Enjoy yourself.
The music may stop but the dance goes on.

It is fun and enjoyable, and yes it is innocent. You should not feel odd, it isn't like you are going out boozing or something.
I think it would be cool if you could get him to go, because it would be so fun to do it together. Just let him know that you would love for him to be there, and also perhaps you can teach him in the privacy of your own living room once you are more experienced!!!! As long as he knows that he is welcome to come with you anytime, why not enjoy something fun?