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Position:Home>Dancing> Can someone help me with my mom and dance?Question:I take 2 dance classes and I am on the competition dance team. I LOVE COMPETITION! I just love to compete. The problem is that since I am on competition I HAVE TO take ballet. I also HAVE to take Lyrical because one of my competition dances is Lyrical. Both of those dances are VERY slow. I basically hate lyrical and ballet, but I have to take them. I wanted to take hip hop or jazz, but my mom's pocket is tight and can only afford 2 classes. She says I can quit competition and join another class, but I don't want to quit the thing I worked sooo hard for. I know we can afford the extra class, but whenever I bring the subject up, my mom brings it 'down'. I was thinking about working out a deal like, if I get all As on my first semester or not fighting with my sister for 2 months (talk about hard!!). All the other girls take 6 or 7 classes PLUS 7 dances for competition!!!!! I only take 2 of each. I feel that I could be better with that one extra class!!! HELP!!! Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I take 2 dance classes and I am on the competition dance team. I LOVE COMPETITION! I just love to compete. The problem is that since I am on competition I HAVE TO take ballet. I also HAVE to take Lyrical because one of my competition dances is Lyrical. Both of those dances are VERY slow. I basically hate lyrical and ballet, but I have to take them. I wanted to take hip hop or jazz, but my mom's pocket is tight and can only afford 2 classes. She says I can quit competition and join another class, but I don't want to quit the thing I worked sooo hard for. I know we can afford the extra class, but whenever I bring the subject up, my mom brings it 'down'. I was thinking about working out a deal like, if I get all As on my first semester or not fighting with my sister for 2 months (talk about hard!!). All the other girls take 6 or 7 classes PLUS 7 dances for competition!!!!! I only take 2 of each. I feel that I could be better with that one extra class!!! HELP!!! Well, I suggest trying to talk to her again. Just seriously say "Mom, I want to talk about this, please let me and please seriously listen to me" Then bring up how you would work harder to get better grades and not fight with your sister if she let you take this extra class. Maybe say you can start baby sitting or (if you're old enough) get a part-time job to help pay for it. And most studios take off some of your tuition if you help out around there. You might have to realize though, that you may REALLY not have enough money to take another class. Why don't you get a job to help pay for said classes? If you're not old enough to work, maybe you can tone down your demands for other wants and needs, like pack a lunch for school rather than buying one, or don't go to the movies or beg for the latest CD by your favorite artist. Art, and especially dance, is about sacrifices--physical, social, and financial sacrifices. Get used to it now, because one day you'll be paying for ALL of your expenses. If mom's got her foot down about the money it's probably for good reason. Always trust mom. However, I think that 'A Dancer' should know different styles of dance. I know ballet seems to be a drag but it's really the backbone of all other forms of dance, it will improve your technique. There's nothing wrong with learning them one time, it'll look great on your resume. If you really want to bargain with mom try using the grades first. Better Grades are usually always rewarded. Then you can move to promises of doing dishes, cleaning bathrooms, etc. You have to make it clear to her that you're sincere and serious. Maybe then she'll compromise and give you a chance but don't take any chances for granted. Know that she'll be supervising with a watchful eye. Keep to any agreements made because it will be a time of trust and dedication and honesty. Ask her to make a job deal with you where you will do chores for a set rate and then pay for the classes yourself. Talk it out with her. She may be willing to bend once you hit on something she's willing to trust you with. |