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Has your Life turned out the way you thought it would? If not? why Not?


Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I'm middle-aged, and the answer is in some ways.

I always thought I'd be a mother. I am, and my sons are great. I thought I'd be married. I was, but he died. I thought I'd make a small, but obvious impact on my field, but I was busy raising kids by myself, leading a full life and not solicting grants to promote my research agenda.

Why is it in some ways? Because I planned carefully and was really lucky. Why not in others? Because cancer still kills people and because I missed doing some things that would have made other goals achievable. Whether that's my fault or not, who knows?

All I know is that you can't have it all--at least not at the same time. There are specific times in your life when goals have to be addressed and you only have so much time at any one point. It's possible to do all the right things and miss the golden moment to take a certain step toward a particular goal.